In the very first Baaghi column, a wife wants her husband to use protection instead of her having to use a birth control pill that has countless downsides. You can send in your queries to hameshabaaghi@gmail.com
Baaghi, your saathi, believes all should NOT be fair in love and war: you need not make your body a war zone to make your bed a love zone! Ama, dadi, phupa, parosi may have sermonized how shaadi ka naam samjhota hai, magar, meri jaan, bodily education in mein say koi nahi samjhata.
Putting your body in pain for the purpose of pleasing your husband is not synonymous to saving your marriage or loving selflessly. And so, if you want him to wear a condom, then be oral about it. After all, the fact that your husband “wants” and not “demands” means there’s room to talk it out. So, be down to trying this threesome in your next social intercourse: ethos, pathos, and logos.
Firstly, ejaculate some logic by peeling the banana off pills down – explain the downsides: stretching from nausea, tender breasts, menstrual changes, exhaustion, dizziness, vomiting – ughhh!! Ask him, dear hubby, why must lovemaking become a liability for my body?
Next, ask your husband, why punish me with pain via the pill, when you can just wear a plastic condom and still seek pleasure?
Last but not the least, jagao apnay emotions ko, in this anti-pill foreplay. Let your husband know you want to make love to him – whilst loving him and not loathing him for ignorantly voting #TeamPill.
Yes, this social intercourse may sound hard, but it isn’t harsh – hence, a worthwhile job, which – I am hopeful – will be well done. After all, if Bollywood has had you believe jab pyar kiya toh darna kya, toh why must muhabat and making love leave your body in dar. But no seriously, you can and you should ask your husband to wear a condom, because you do not want to take the pill. Marriage can and should be a dialogue. End of story.
As part of our new advice column, Baaghi will be answering all queries and suggesting a way out. Send in your questions to hameshabaaghi@gmail.com
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